Attitude- Parent Style

Parenting is an adventure. Life is an adventure.  Parenting and life come down to attitude. To me, every situation is about attitude.

I had a revelation today…. after dealing with a tough discipline issue with my daughter, I found myself thinking, “How can I help her?”

I want to help her, I want to help myself to help her, I want to help her so she can be the best she can be.

My revelation? How I respond comes down to an attitude of helping vs. an attitude of “deal with it.”  I realized if I just wanted to “deal with” this phase/her intense emotions etc., then to decide to just “deal” is to choose to “survive” until it passes.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to just “survive.” I want my husband and I to find the best tools for ourselves so we can impart to our children what they need for life.  Thriving, having energy (as much as possible), and being content come from being proactive, finding solutions not band-aids.  Its about having an attitude of endurance and purpose.  It’s about praying and seeking wisdom.

Am I perfect?  FAR from it! But I was glad my attitude showed the resolve to make things better for all involved.  Have I cried? Yes.  Have I felt utterly mortified at my daughter’s meltdown over being pushed with one hand on the swing instead of two (because I was holding my son in the other) making every adult and child stop and stare at us for what felt like 5 minutes? Yes. Have I yelled when I wanted to be that mom that stays calm-and-collected no matter what? Yes.  Despite all the feelings involved, all the bumps in the road, and all of the hiccups…I still get up.  I have to.  For my kids.  For our family.  That is the attitude I choose.  An attitude of thriving, not just surviving.

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My Top Four Add-Ons

I’ve read, researched, and studied…and these are my “TOP FOUR” add-ons (essentially the “nutritional supplements” I feed my children)

1.  Kale- I try to feed this to my children every other day.  After steaming, pureeing, and freezing kale, I add a kale cube to warmed up apple sauce, into spaghetti sauce, scrambled eggs, or soup.  The possibilities are endless really.  My son’s favorite is pureed pears and kale 🙂  When kale is on sale, my daughter and I make cheesy kale chips.  However, our “cheese” is nutritional yeast, soon to be featured in #2.  (Making cheesy kale chips is easy…wash and dry the kale, break it into chip-sized pieces, toss with olive oil, salt, and nutritional yeast.  Bake for 8-10 minutes at 350 degrees).

2.  Nutritional yeast (AKA nutri yeast)- SO yummy!  We put it on everything to add a cheesy, nutty flavor.  Find it at the health food store next to Brewer’s yeast.  It is best on sliced avocado, and simply great on spaghetti.  I sprinkle it on diced avocado to help my babies grip their first finger food.  We seriously add it to everything because it’s full of B vitamins!

3. Flax seed- I call this my breakfast booster. These little seeds are full of Omega-3, antioxidants, and fiber. I buy the brown flax seeds in bulk and grind about two cups at a time, keeping them in an easily accessible ziploc in the fridge.  Every morning it’s stirred in to oatmeal or yogurt; it’s sprinkled onto a slice of toast with almond butter or sprinkled onto cereal or granola. Like nutritional yeast, when my babies start to do finger foods like slippery banana or mango, I sprinkle the flaxseed over the diced pieces to make them easier to grip.

4. Molasses- This thick, black tar is actually full of iron, magnesium, and Vitamin B6.  My kids beg for more as we put it on top of goat yogurt for breakfast.  It’s not complete unless mommy attempts to make a picture of Charlie Brown, Snoopy, or Linus out of molasses.  Don’t ask me how that tradition got started.  😉